We are all created in God’s image as relational beings – to seek after and long for friendship with a third party from cradle to adulthood and this tendency is what we all respond to, consciously or unconsciously, from time to time. Therefore we all need friends – true fiends for that matter.
The true essence of friendship basically refers to the basic reasons why we need friends in life.
Below are 3 simple but highly significant points to note as the true essence of friendship:
1. Friendship is self-expression: At one time or the other, we feel the need to express ourselves to people, because we are not wood or stone. This serves as one of the reasons why we seek for friends. Have you ever felt the need to just talk in a group? Have you ever seen people who don’t really have anything to say but who just want to express themselves by talking in a gathering? This is the point.
2. Friendship is for sharing: No one has it all and no one has so little that he doesn’t have anything to share. Friendship, therefore, satisfies our desire to share things with people, no matter how little. Even God in heaven shares with mankind. Think about it!
3. Friendship is for mutual benefits: We also need friends for mutual benefits towards life advancement. Since no one has been created as an island, you and I need the support of others to advance in life, one way or the other. Similarly, someone else needs what you have which you may not even value (e.g. ideas and knowledge) to get better and advance in life.
The three points above highlight the true essence of friendship in a nutshell! Knowing them helps you to place value on your friendships. Note, however, that friends can make or mar you. Therefore, friendship is not, has never been, and will never be by force but by choice! As a result, it is important that you choose your friends wisely to avoid regrets in life. “Everybody deserves your friendship but not everybody wants it; just the same way you don’t want everybody’s friendship! It is, therefore, not the quantity of friends that you have that matters in life but the quality of friends that you have”. Think about this!
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This article is an excerpt from the new, practical, motivational book on friendship written by Ambassador Samuel A. Ajayi, titled “The Essence Of True Friendship”.
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